Negative Qualities
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| Overcoming/Changing Negative Qualities |
| Physical Fitness |
| Critical Nature |
| Argumentative |
| Pessimism |
| Co-dependent |
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Additional Information for Chapter 5, page 73
We refer here to the chart of personal qualities you have filled out (or ARE filling out, or PLAN to fill out). As suggested in The Compatibility Code all people have negative qualities and some of these negative qualities have the power to severely compromise the quality of your marriage.
Recognizing that you have these negative qualities is the first step toward resolution. Awareness about specific negative qualities (even if you do nothing about them) represents a significant step toward a positive outcome. If you are aware of them you will tend to take these qualities into account when you interact with others.
So before we worry about what to do with negative qualities let’s make sure you have included the most important personal negative qualities on your sheet. This is where the lists (Chapter 5 Prescript #1 and Reference #1 that documents Anderson’s 555 personal qualities) can be helpful. If you have trouble thinking up negative personal qualities a wealth of dismal and disgusting traits are included in each location. As you look through these lists, ask yourself honestly “Is this an issue I am dealing with now?” The answer to that question falls into three categories:
1. Many issues don’t apply. If it doesn’t apply, don’t talk yourself into including it. Toss it like it deserves.
2. If you are not sure about whether you possess certain qualities (or if they are important enough to include on your sheet), ask friends or family members what they think. In considering what they say be sure to be aware of the issue of “similar perspectives from independent sources.”
3. Finally if you know that a quality applies to you, add it to your list.
We consider what to do with these negative qualities in the next prescript of this chapter. But be assured that your honesty and reasonable thoroughness of identifying the negative qualities moves you a giant step in the direction of resolution.
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