Reasearch-Based Disqualifiers

What follows are the references for the 19 research-based disqualifiers listed and briefly described on pages 106-107 of The Compatibility Code.  The references are often articles from academic journals which would be difficult to find and interpret for someone who is not deeply steeped in academia.  Other references are books designed for the general public.  For these references the material is very findable (check out Amazon.com or Amazon.ca) and quite understandable.  If you have difficulty with any of our references, you might google the listed quality and seek to find some valid source of information.

1. Hostility
Smith, T. W., & Gallo, L. C. (1999). Hostility and cardiovascular reactivity during marital interaction. Psychosomatic Medicine, 61, 436-445.

2. Bitterness 

Guerin, P. J. (1987). The evaluation and treatment of marital conflict. New York: Basic Books.

3. Selfishness 

Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work. New York: Three Rivers Press.

4. Rigid or uncompromising 

Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work. New York: Three Rivers Press.

5. Tactless 

Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work. New York: Three Rivers Press.

6. Egotistical 

Luckey, E. B. (1964). Marital satisfaction and personality correlates of spouse. Journal of Marriage and the Family, 26, 217-220.

7. Controlling 

Haley, J. (1976). Problem-solving therapy. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass.

8. Dishonesty 

Spitzer, R. L., Gibbon, M., Skodol, A. E., Williams, J. B., & First, M. B. (2005). DSM-IV Casebook. Washington, DC: American Psychiatric Press.

9. Cruelty and abuse 

James, R. K. (2005). Crisis intervention strategies. Belmont, CA: Brooks/Cole.

10. Poor communication skills 

Gottman, J. M. (2001). The relationship cure: A five-step guide for building connections with family, friends, and lovers. New York: Three Rivers Press.

11. Manipulative 

Popcak, G. (2002). The exceptional seven percent. New York: Citadel.

12. Reactive thinker 

Bowen, M. (1976). Principles and techniques of multiple family therapy. In P. J. Guerin (Ed.), Family therapy: Theory and practice. New York: Gardner Press.

13. Emotionally unstable 

Spitzer, R. L., Gibbon, M., Skodol, A. E., Williams, J. B., & First, M. B. (2005). DSM-IV Casebook. Washington, DC: American Psychiatric Press.

14. Overly sensitive 

Popcak, G. (2002). The exceptional seven percent. New York: Citadel.

15. Excessive dependency 

Hazen, C., & Shaver, P. (1987). Romantic love conceptualized as an attachment process. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 52, 511-524.

16. Severe psychological disorders 

Spitzer, R. L., Gibbon, M., Skodol, A. E., Williams, J. B., & First, M. B. (2005). DSM-IV Casebook. Washington, DC: American Psychiatric Press.

17. Uncontrolled anger 

Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work. New York: Three Rivers Press.

18. Habitually critical 

Hooley, J. M., & Teasdale, J. D. (1989). Predictors of relapse in uni-polar depressives: expressed emotion, marital distress and perceived criticism. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 98(3), 229-235.

19. Obsessive or compulsive behavior 

Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work. New York: Three Rivers Press.