I’m not so different from my teenage daughters. They’re glued to their iPods – I was glued to my stereo. Yep, the kind that took up huge amounts of space with big speakers, an amplifier, a record player and a cassette deck. Sigh. You now know that I’m somewhere over 40!
Like my daughters, I lived life through music that “spoke” to me. And oh, what emotions were created; both tears and laughter, hopes and dreams. My best friends and I all shared favorite songs-we attended proms and dances named after hit singles of the day. Barry Manilow sang to our hearts “I write the songs that make the young girls cry…I write the songs of love and special things.”
And we listened and we learned. But we didn’t know that we should have filtered what we heard and we certainly didn’t know that messages became scripted into our subconscious. In 1976, my first full year of high school, there were 52 weeks of love, sex and dancing. Of all top billboard hits, only 5 didn’t fit into one of those categories. We didn’t know we had been set up for failure in love.
To complete our high school love lesson, let’s put the hit titles in a paragraph:
Did you know that there is a Love Rollercoaster, and afterwards you’ll have a Love Hangover? Don’t Go Breaking My Heart because If You Leave Me Now, I’ll give you 50 Ways to Leave Your Lover. Wait, Let’s Do It Again and have some Afternoon Delight. It’s late and now I have Boogie Fever because it’s Saturday Night. Please Shake Your Booty and Play That Funky Music. Oh baby, you’re just a Love Machine and Tonight’s The Night for you to be Rock’n Me.
So, let me ask you. What messages have the lyrics of your youth scripted upon your heart. Are you starting (or continuing) your search for love using a false picture? Just give it a thought.
For those who love lists and want to be amazed, take a look a how the top hits of 1976 could be categorized:
Love
Love Rollercoaster – Ohio Players January 31 – February 6
I Write The Songs – Barry Manilow January 17 – January 23
Let Your Love Flow – Bellamy Brothers May 1 – May 7
Silly Love Songs – Wings May 22 – May 28
Love Hangover – Diana Ross May 29 – July 9
Don’t Go Breaking My Heart – Elton John & Kiki Dee August 7 – September 3
If You Leave Me Now – Chicago October 23 – - November 5
The Loss of Love
Do You Know Where You’re Going To – Theme from Mahogany – Diana Ross January 24 – January 30
50 Ways To Leave Your Lover – Paul Simon February 7 – February 27
Kiss And Say Goodbye – Manhattans July 24 – August 6
Sex Theme
Let’s Do It Again – The Staple Singers December 27, 1975 – January 2, 1976
Love Machine (Part 1) – The Miracles March 6 – March 12
Afternoon Delight – Starland Vocal Band July 10 – July 23 Disco Lady – Johnnie Taylor April 3 – April 30
December, 1963 (Oh, What a Night) – The Four Seasons March 13 – April 2
Tonight’s The Night (Gonna Be Alright) – Rod Stewart November 13 – January 7, 1977
Rock’n Me – Steve Miller November 6 – November 12
Dancing
Saturday Night – Bay City Rollers January 3 – January 9
Boogie Fever – The Sylvers May 15 – May 21
You Should Be Dancing – The Bee Gees September 4 – September 10
(Shake, Shake, Shake) Shake Your Booty – KC & The Sunshine Band September 11 – September 17
Play That Funky Music – Wild Cherry September 18 – October 8
The remaining 5
Convoy – C.W. McCall January 10 – January 16
Theme From S.W.A.T. – Rhythm Heritage February 28 – March 5
Welcome Back – John Sebastian May 8 – May 14
A Fifth Of Beethoven – Walter Murphy & The Big Apple Band October 9 – October 15
Disco Duck (Part 1) – Rick Dees & His Cast Of Idiots October 16 – October 22
Tags: Incorrect Images of Love, love, relationships, songs about love
Excellent post. So let me ask you this. Are there any love songs that you feel do NOT implant a negative script or a doomed for failure view of love?
Ronda Del Boccio
There are hundreds of beautiful and expressive love songs that celebrate and evoke feelings. The question we have to ask is how do we use our feelings about love, or the feeling of being in love, as we make choices about selecting a spouse. If we follow the advice of the songs, even those without negative scripts, we will end up using love as our main criteria for “knowing” if he or she is “the one!” Therein lies the danger. Love cloaks our ability to really “see” the other person. It disguises warning signs and focuses on feelings. And those feelings make for an unstable foundation for marriage!
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